…n might have had sex with him out of guilt and the whole thing would have been deemed “consensual.” But, it happened so quickly, and I didn’t have to fight that hard to make it stop, that even now I find myself questioning was it actually assault?
By many people’s definition, including the one I prefer, non-consensual sexual penetration, even with fingers, is rape. (See Wikipedia entries for Rape and Sexual Penetration.) I think what he did that night qualifies as rape, even if it might be one of the less violent versions of it.
That said, I love your essay. More people should read it.